Showing posts with label Survival. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Survival. Show all posts

Monday, 16 March 2020

Abuse - I’ll probably be better off dead.

Monday 16th  March 2020 - 0200 (Contains content some may find distressing)
Abuse - Sometimes I think I’d be better off dead.

The time is 0200. My head hurts, it’s excruciatingly painful. The pain caused by another episode of illness. It’s worse at night. No one is around to support at night. I don’t know if I’ve had a seizure but the searing heat located in the right temple and the agonising pain sends my memory back to the time when my father would repeatedly strike me around the head with his hands. Just one of many ways he would hurt me. This incident is being recorded on my digital voice recorder. I’ll play it back later and type the notes up from the recordings as I often do. I don’t know what I did to deserve the frequent hurt and beatings my father used to inflict upon me, I haven’t got any children but I know if I did I wouldn’t hit them. My bed is wet, I don’t know if that’s perspiration or I’ve passed urine. According to my father I was a worthless, useless, person who would never amount to anything. That’s all he ever told me. He was probably right. What use am I to anyone? I try to convince myself that I’m useful. Parishioners nominated, selected and voted for me in the local elections after all. Hence why I won more votes than the former Braunstone Town Mayor. My dogs love me (I think) but dogs love anyone who takes care of them. It wouldn’t matter to my family if I were dead. I very rarely hear from family unless they want something. Of course they had me labelled as a troublesome person out to cause mischief but none thought that I was having difficulty expressing myself and trusting people because some vile people closest to me were actually abusing me in the most horrific ways. So horrific that I was forced to be silent about it because I was repeatedly told that my mother and sisters would get hurt if I told anyone about it. I protected my family from the truth for over forty years. But no more. I’ve gone through counselling, I’ve spoken to some of my family about the abuse, the ones that would speak, most are in denial but the ones that have had a brief conversation with me have told me that they witnessed certain events going on, but yet did nothing to stop it! I’m crying now. For over forty years I thought I was protecting family from the truth, but, for over forty years they knew about some of what was going on? The question is… How much did they know and what type of abuse did they know about? 
Sometimes I think I’d be better off dead. I certainly used to think that when my father was alive. 
Well, soon the whole world will know the truth. 
I’m holding nothing back anymore, there’s no need to.
My new book will reveal all.
Coming Soon….
David J. Di Palma – Surviving One Day at a Time.  
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Expressing the personal views of David Di Palma unless stated otherwise.

Sunday, 16 February 2020

Why I Blog and the Benefits to Reading my Blogs.

Why I Blog and the Benefits to Reading my Blogs.

Writing diaries is something I’ve done from childhood, they’ve been vital for my daily survival and development. The methods used to keep diaries may’ve changed over the decades as technology has progressed but the fundamental reasons behind writing have largely remained the same. I suppose the question you maybe asking yourself is; Why am I sharing my experiences and diary entries with you? What benefit to reading my diaries and blogs is there for you? 
I’ll try and answer that now.

I’ll start by telling you what I’m NOT trying to achieve and DON’T WANT.

  • I neither seek nor need your attention.
  • I don’t need anything from you.
  • I don’t need you to feel sorry for me.
  • I don’t need you to motivate me, i’m a self-motivator.
  • There is no need to be critical of me or my circumstances, there is no need to be critical because I critique myself daily, no one could be more critical of me than me.
  • If you don’t like my posts for whatever reason scroll on by, there is no need to comment & no need to be; unpleasant or abusive.

Now I’ll tell you what I’m TRYING to achieve and DO WANT

With the support of my team- 
  • I do want to raise awareness of the physical and mental challenges faced on a daily basis living with a brain injury disability & other neurological conditions 
With the support of my team- 
  • I do want to promote the work I am doing on behalf of the parishioners, businesses and stakeholders of; Braunstone town, Leicester Forest East & the wider demographic area in my role as a democratically elected Independent Councillor. 
With the support of my team- 


  •  I Do want to raise awareness of all forms of; abuse, hostility and prejudices; to encourage survivors to speak and to seek the support that they may need.


With the support of my team- 

I do want to promote my

Not-for-profit award-winning literary works which have been written to support and encourage; other survivors, businesses, service providers and service users to improve their personal and professional circumstances & the services they offer through my experiences.


Finally I’ll advise you of what the benefits are of reading my blogs and visiting my websites.

BENEFITS

The human brain is a complex organ. The way in which we (as humans) process, function and survive differs greatly from one being to another. There are similarities between us but the fundamental principles are the same. It matters not a jot who you are or how much wealth one has acquired, everyone has their own pleasures they live, difficulties to overcome & their own life’s journey to undertake. Through my literary works I want to share my journey with you so that you can understand how I’ve used reflective practices, experiences and techniques to overcome adversity (with the support of my team). By reading my posts, by communicating with me and allowing me to share my world with you, it is hoped that you will enhance your understanding of the complex world around us. In so doing you will improve your professional and personal circumstances which will have a positive impact upon the wider community. If I can inspire at least one person to overcome their problems and one organisation to improve the products and services they offer then the bad experiences I’ve overcome will have been worthwhile. 

My motto is ‘To triumph over adversity is my greatest strength’. 
My name is David Di Palma 
I’m a Survivor and Proud 

This blog is representative of the personal views of David Di Palma.

Saturday, 15 February 2020

There's No 'I' in Team

Hello and welcome to my blog. My name is David Di Palma and if I were to describe myself in one word, I would describe myself as ‘Survivor’.

Abuse & Brain Injury Survivor

I’m a complex being. A SURVIVOR of abuse (physical, psychological and sexual), a brain injury SURVIVOR, and an epilepsy SURVIVOR. I’m not a victim but a SURVIVOR.

Surviving takes up the vast majority of my time. My challenges just to function are significant. I’m supported by Claire, Julian and Dipak on a daily basis. Claire, Julian and Dipak are my
Care and Support Workers who support me with every aspect of my personal and professional SURVIVAL STRATEGY. A strategy which is constantly evolving as my circumstances continually change.


Independent Councillor  In my spare time I serve on the respective councils of 
Braunstone Town & Leicester Forest East in the county of Leicestershire.
I’m an Independent Councillor having served different parishes, including Glenfield, 

Braunstone Town and Leicester Forest East since 2011.

Business Owner      
I’m a business owner of two Micro Businesses and an Award-Winning Author. 
The purpose of my blog is to inspire others to improve their personal and professional circumstances through my experiences.

Welcome Aboard    To that end I offer you my warm welcome and look forward to sharing my experiences with you.    My name is David Di Palma, I’m a Survivor, If I can do it, you can do it.
Best Wishes
David Di Palma
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Expressing the personal views of David Di Palma unless stated otherwise.


Long time no hear

It has been a long time since we last posted but it has been a very busy few months in respect of supporting the communities of Braunstone T...